People-Pleasing

"People who are prone to anxiety are nearly always people-pleasers who fear conflict and negative feelings like anger. when you feel upset, you sweep your problems under the rug because you don't want to upset anyone. You do this so quickly and automatically that you're not even aware you're doing it.

~David D. Burns

I tend to not be a people-pleaser. With this, I have also found myself in situations where I upset people because I say no. I do not say no to be selfish and out of spite, I say no because the situation is not right or healthy for me. Sometimes it is real hard to say no, but I have found from experience, people-pleasing will only result in a person who is miserable (my belief).

I do believe there are circumstances where individuals are not aware they are ignoring a problem or situation. People-pleasing can become a habit and a real tough habit to break.

If you are a people-pleaser, is taking that route serving you well? Is it working for you? Does it still cause you anxiety or stress when you say yes, when you really feel like saying no?

Does ignoring a situation bring resolution or heartache?

Good thoughts to ponder over. We are never going to make everyone happy. This is truth, but we can communicate whether people like it or not. Communication is better than no communication.

Is your conscious settled by the route you are choosing? If you say yes all the time, are you happy? If you say no, gave a genuine explanation, is your heart at peace with your decision?

Thoughts?

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