Motivational Connection

Human connection is important for our well-being.  Of course the true way to happiness is through our own work of self-worth, but we must also have human connection in order for us to live healthy lives.  This does not mean we have to spend time with friends or family the majority of the day, but it is good to take a step back from the routine of daily life and visit those who are dear to us.  Nothing outbeats a real live connection with a friend or family member.  Stop the texting, stop the communication via social media and meet someone for coffee, lunch, or whatever else might strike your fancy! 

According to Robinson, Boose, Smith, and Segal (2016), making friends are essential and have a huge impact on our life.  Friends bring us comfort, joy, prevent us from isolation, and relieve stress (p. 1). Through research studies, more so than family relationships and love, friends brings more happiness into our lives, and this is critical for our psychological well-being. Further, our psysical health can be compromised with the lack of the bond that friendships bring. According to Robinson, Boose, Smith, and Segal, "Studies show that a lack of social connection can be as damnaging as smoking, drinkng too much, or leading a sedentary lifestyle" (p. 1, para. 2). 

Increasing one's circle of friends can add longevity to one's life. It's never too late to get yourself out there and meet new people. Here are the benefits to good friends:

1. Your mood will be improved.

2. Your goals seem more approachable with encouragment from friends.

3. Your depression and stress will be reduced.

4. Our friends are always there for good times, but the friends that stay with us and are true through our tough times are the best friends we will ever have.

5. As we age, friends age with us...WHO DOESN'T NEED THAT KIND OF SUPPORT???!!!

6. Our self-worth is boosted with good friendship. 

Tips for meeting new people:

1. Get yourself out there!

2. Join a club or take a class you have always wanted to.

3. Walk your dog.

4. Connect to other alumni from previous schools.

5. Social media is great for connecting with old friend and staying in contact with friends that live far away.

6. Invite a friend over for dinner, wine, and good conversation (This is my favorite for summer time and eating out on the deck!).

7. Ask someone to a movie.

8. Carpool to work.

9. Take yourself to musical recitals, shows, lectures, gallery opentions, and book readings.

One last tid bit of advice:

To have a friend, you must be a good friend. Just as your wish to have meaningful friendships that last a lifetime, so does the other person you are communicating with. Truly listen attentively and geniunely and always forgive, because no one is perfect. Happy Friending!